Dating playing it cool
The trick is knowing how to playthem up when you're face-to-facewith a worthy guy.
Put the followingadvice into action and the only thinghe'll have to be afraid of is falling inlove too fast.
You meet a man on a first date and he’s smitten with you. You stand a MUCH better chance of getting somewhere with him if you’re your BEST self than if you’re the needy, nervous version of you.
Put the butterflies aside and start acting like you do with your best girlfriends – confident, playful, and self-assured.
"Because menare biologically hardwired to be competitive,they need to feel like they'remaking the choice to be with you andthen working toward winning youover," says John Amodeo, Ph D, authorof "You need togive a guy the space to do that." Insteadof focusing on him, pay just as much(and, at times, even more) attention toothers around you, advises clinicalpsychologist Belisa Vranich, Psy D,author of And when he mentions having donesomething undeniably awesome, likestudying abroad in Nepal, resist theurge to gush about how amazing thatmust have been.
As you know, one of the most fascinating things about dating is how there’s always more than meets the eye. So even though you see it as a sign of weakness when a guy is ga-ga for you, do your best not to hold it against him.
And what we want to happen on a date doesn’t always correspond to what REALLY happens on a date. And when you weren’t with him, all you could think about was being with him again. But what happens when you’re that intoxicated by a man? These are the words that best describe you when you feel the strongest about a new man in your life. Nor is it surprising when that impressive man, upon seeing that you’re needy, nervous and weak around him, stops calling you. This is one of my favorite dating coaching principles – getting you, as a woman, to flip things over yourself, to better understand men.
The one he looks forward to seeing because you are moving at the same speed as he is.
It’s going to be too easy for him to get with you, too easy for him to be with you, and then he’s going to lose interest. Or do you want to be the ‘it’ girl, the one who goes with the flow and is his equal in every way?