Dating someone who is shorter than you
According to Malcolm Gladwell, as well as being predominately white and male, apparently CEOs are almost all tall. Reddit has a page called r/short where over 20,000 members discuss things like ‘heightism’ and the difficulties of dating as a short guy. I know many an otherwise open-minded woman who swears that she would never date someone shorter than she is, and I used to count myself among them. According to the CDC, the average height difference between men and women is 5.5 inches (coincidentally — or maybe not — that’s about the same length as the average erect penis. And both men and women feel pressure to adhere to height norms: One 2008 study of college students found that about 50 percent of guys wanted their partners to be shorter than them, while 90 percent of women wanted their partners to be taller than them.A guy who can look at all those statistics and societal pressures and say "eff that" is less likely to be threatened by other ways that you buck gender stereotypes — for example, instead of feeling weird about you getting a raise or showing off your superior sports knowledge, he’ll celebrate the fact that he’s with someone who doesn’t make herself smaller to accommodate others.2. guys from 20 to 29 years of age are under 5-foot-10, the average male height, while only about 20 percent of guys exceed the 6-foot mark.You don’t have to make any calculations about the height of your heels. Yes, it makes sense to narrow your pool of potential suitors based on what you value — it’s very reasonable to look for someone with a basic understanding of grammar, for example — but too long a list of non-negotiables can blind you to people who could make you very happy. If you "only date" men at least 6 feet tall, you’re shooting yourself in the foot as far as selection. Dating shorter can help you get over your own insecurities about size. We are used to categorizing people in our heads based on appearances. I guess there’s a stereotype that a shorter guy is less of a man. So I suppose the assumption goes that if you’re below average in height, maybe you’re below average in other categories. We don’t say oh, girls who are shorter are smarter, and tall girls are more creative and outgoing. Take for example Nick Jonas, Daniel Radcliffe, Usher, Josh Hutcherson, or Jared Leto. But we don’t question their talents or abilities (or their ability to make us swoon). We spend much of our money on “fashionable” clothing and we know that if a guy calls a girl a 7, he means in terms of hotness.Sexual attraction largely derives from your upbringing.
They found that the lucky dudes getting it on the most were 25 to 29 years old, weighed less than 172 pounds ... In fact, the Napoleon Complex is actually code for ridiculously ambitious. While tall men want to get married earlier, their marriages don't last like those of short men. Once you drop that absurd height requirement, you'll double, and maybe even triple, your chances for love.7. When you're laying down getting it on, who even notices height?
The message many women send short men goes something like this: Yeah, sorry, but nothing you could say or do could ever give you a chance with me. For those of you who insist that you’re not attracted to short men, you should, at least, try to have a good reason why you’re not.
Men and women both fall prey to the (remarkably persistent) myth that sexual attraction works on auto-pilot, as if we are all preprogrammed to be attracted to the ones who captivate our attention. The type of person you’re attracted to depends largely on your beliefs. My client, Alexis, comes from the most machismo family I can imagine, full of firefighters, Marines, and gobs of Old Spice. In Alexis’ family, she was the only daughter and the men in her family were brawny and tough.
I promise you will find no reflection of who someone is in the double-digit number of inches they measure up to be.
If you dismiss someone who is two inches “two short,” you could be missing out on someone, maybe even the one. If you’re going to fall in love with someone, you’re going to care about what they like and dislike, what they value, and what bothers them. You’re going to care that they’re there when you are in need. At the end of the day, you’re going to lay down and hold one another, heads lined up on the pillow, eye to eye, and it won’t matter whose feet stretch farther toward the end of the mattress.