I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life. I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.
I don’t like it—but I know I’m guilty of this mentality too.They are both single and both catch a glimpse of each other before giving off a flirty smile.One of them decides to approach the other from across the room.We as a society are becoming more progressive, and since the start of the feminist movement in the 1960’s and 70s we have come a long way when it comes to gender roles and gender stereotypes.We are making progress towards gender equality and we have moved away from the old beliefs such as “women belong in the kitchen” and “men are the primary house earners.” But in certain types of social situations we do have gender-based social conventions that are still widely accepted culturally.